Advice for soon-to-be-wedded couples
In a short time the two of you will be united. Your new life will commence in no uncertain terms and I pray that it will be one of matrimonial bliss. The commitments made so far will have to be lived up to and the promises kept. What lays ahead in your future no one knows! However, from what I know of such matters this is the advice I have to offer.
For the road that lies ahead remember that it is the journey that shall eventually matter more than the destination. Life is far too short and precious to waste on petty strife and unpleasantness. No doubt there will be differences in opinion, in choice or in taste in lifestyle, prospects and other such worldly and familial considerations. Difference in opinion, however, is not an end in itself. It is a compelling reason for intellectual involvement in the unavoidable process of decision making that governs day to day life. Engage in meaningful conversation, learn to listen and engage in constructive dialogue with your partner. All conflicts may be resolved with a degree of success that depends on the strength and openness of your communication channels. Beware of open ended accusations that come from frustration. Frayed tempers make bad advocates. History is not meant to be used for emotional blackmail, but rather as a lesson to learn from. Harboring negative thoughts from past experiences is not only fruitless; it is also highly destructive to the intellect and the soul. Forgive and forget the other’s misadventures and errors in judgment – such magnanimity is as rare as happy marriages. I believe that one leads to another – one cannot be happy while harboring anxieties and misgivings about one’s spouse.
posted by Yaseen Mehter @ 2:36 AM
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